black angel moms, grief & loss, Trying to figure this all out

Mother’s Day Moxie

photo by: Dazzle-Jam. SO much power in this photo! Moxie! Last weekend was International Bereaved Mother’s Day.  A time to honor the identity of “mother” that so many loss moms/angel moms want to claim, but from which they feel barred.  Such is the nature of what is commonly known as disenfranchised loss. Losses like these… Continue reading Mother’s Day Moxie

7 Gems - You're Welcome, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Shifting Ground: Finding Footing in Times of Uncertainty

Welp! We’re in a pandemic. Can you believe it?! It all seems so surreal sometimes… things seem normal-ish, but then weird asf the moment you step outside your home.  I know a lot of people had high hopes for 2020. Maybe you were hoping for a reset of some sort; a new way of ushering… Continue reading Shifting Ground: Finding Footing in Times of Uncertainty

7 Gems - You're Welcome, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Solo Dolo: Feeling Alone in Grief

No one seems to understand. No one cares about my experience.  No one, not even my partner or family, feels the depth of this pain.  The world just keeps on spinning. Everyone just keeps on living… yet I’m stuck feeling like I’m screaming in the dark and no one can hear me. Does this sound… Continue reading Solo Dolo: Feeling Alone in Grief

7 Gems - You're Welcome, grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Mother’s Day Hangovers: Yup, They’re a Thing…

Whhhheeeewwwwwww!!! *wipes forehead* We made it! We made it through Mother’s Day!  A day we may have dreaded, may have prepared for, or may have had some really unexpected things come up for us; but we made it! Pat yourself on the back because you deserve it! So…. anybody else have an emotional hangover after… Continue reading Mother’s Day Hangovers: Yup, They’re a Thing…

grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

The Intersection of Joy X Pain

𝅘𝅥𝅰𝅘𝅥𝅰 JOY!!! And pain Are like Sunshine!!! And rain JOY!!! And pain Are like Sunshine and rain 𝅘𝅥𝅰𝅘𝅥𝅰 If you didn’t start singing along w/ the Maze featuring Frankie Beverly version OR the Rob Base version, we can’t be friends! *Abrupt change of energy starting… now* I recently had the experience of shopping for my… Continue reading The Intersection of Joy X Pain

grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Everybody Wants to Talk About the Baby… Until They Don’t

Have you ever noticed how OBSESSED people are with babies? I mean really, think about it for a sec… People will speak to a baby before they speak to that kid’s parent. They will ask you when you’re going to have children if you’re partnered and why you haven’t “settled down to have some kids… Continue reading Everybody Wants to Talk About the Baby… Until They Don’t

grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

#NormalizeBreakdowns

Photo by @Artsy_Solomon_Films Can we all do each other a favor? Can we all take a break from trying to maintain this super-person status where we don’t feel things deeply, don’t get overwhelmed, don’t struggle, don’t feel like everything is just too damn much? Can we have a moment of honesty and transparency where we… Continue reading #NormalizeBreakdowns

7 Gems - You're Welcome, black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Here’s What I Want You to Know

  I’ve been having conversations recently (with myself and others; don’t judge me for talking to myself) to help ground, support, and facilitate some healing. I decided to make another 7 gem list to share with you & add some resources below to help you on your journey to healing.  Check it out: You did… Continue reading Here’s What I Want You to Know

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Just When You Thought You Were Cool..

It’s PAIL Awareness Month y’all! For those who are unfamiliar, PAIL stands for Pregnancy and Infant Loss and encompasses all perinatal loss from early miscarriage to SIDS.  It’s a time where there are many options for angel parents to honor, memorialize and acknowledge their lost little one’s in a very public way. In fairness, this… Continue reading Just When You Thought You Were Cool..

7 Gems - You're Welcome, Laugh through the pain, Trying to figure this all out

How’s that working for you…?

Guess who's bizzack!!! Hey booskies! So its it's been a MINUTE since my last post. Life is "lifing" as usual and I have gotten sidetracked trying to stay afloat.  Been thinking a lot about reflection and how I'm putting my own suggestions/recs into practice. I asked myself, “how’s that working for you?” I figured I'd… Continue reading How’s that working for you…?