7 Gems - You're Welcome, black angel moms, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Liberation: 7 Ways to Get Free (Emotionally, Spiritually, Mentally)

I know I’m late. The 4th of July already passed and that’s when I was thinking of writing something about freedom but just couldn’t get past the hypocrisy of the holiday. Anyway, I started thinking more and more about liberation and the importance of freeing yourself from things that ail you. It’s been a minute… Continue reading Liberation: 7 Ways to Get Free (Emotionally, Spiritually, Mentally)

black angel moms, grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all, Uncategorized

It’s Complicated…

It's that thing you say when you think folx won’t understand or when you simply don’t feel like explaining something to others. Sometimes it’s the thing you say when you’re trying to make sense of your position but in truth, it doesn’t even fully make sense to YOU so, it’s complicated. It’s been a while… Continue reading It’s Complicated…

7 Gems - You're Welcome, black angel moms, Trauma of it all, TTC (trying to conceive)

Counting

Have you ever considered how much we count?  We’re either paying attention to how much time we have before needing to get to work or counting down to a much needed vacation or counting the hours until the work day is over or counting the time you have until some deadline. Our lives are inundated… Continue reading Counting

7 Gems - You're Welcome, black angel moms, grief & loss

APR’s (Angel Parent Resolutions)

It’s that time of year where folx decide to make resolutions for the coming year.  The time when people proclaim who they’ll continue speaking to, who’s getting cut off, what kind of changes to the diet their making and fitness goals to work out more.  Some people focus on setting better boundaries for themselves while… Continue reading APR’s (Angel Parent Resolutions)

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Uncategorized

Where Did You Go? Missing Me

I don’t know about y’all but sometimes, I just feel missing. Absent from a space. Like I’m either not really there or I don’t want to be there, or like who I thought I was, just simply doesn’t exist anymore. Occasionally I get a glimpse of me but it’s never quite clear. I’m never around… Continue reading Where Did You Go? Missing Me

7 Gems - You're Welcome, black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all

When Is It Time?

Weeks…. Months… years… decades even… Time has passed since your loss. Maybe you’re still a wreck. Maybe the days have gotten a little easier as they drag on. Maybe you’re somewhere in the middle. Maybe you can look at the old ultrasound photos… the “mom-to-be” cards… the pictures after they were born and maybe, maybe… Continue reading When Is It Time?

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Uncategorized

LOL @ Your Plans…

When 2017 rolled around, I was focused. I planned to get this dissertation mostly completed, and spend my year gestating my future child. I had come off of surgery at the end of 2016 to remove two sneaky fibroids and a failed IUI (Intra-Uterine Insemination) cycle at the end of the year.  I was disappointed… Continue reading LOL @ Your Plans…

7 Gems - You're Welcome, grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all

The Value of Trigger Warnings

You know that feeling when something’s going on with you and you feel like you then see evidence of it everywhere? Like when you’re going through a breakup but everywhere you turn, you seem to see couples cuddled up, cuffing season is in full swing and everybody-and-their-mother is getting engaged? Yeah, you know what I’m… Continue reading The Value of Trigger Warnings

grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all, Uncategorized

There is NO Safe Zone!

*Language Warning so if you're offended by curses, pick another post ;-)* This post is going to be short and sweet because the truth is always more concise.  I heard about a study that found people who lie use more words overall than people who tell the truth.  Makes sense, right? The truth doesn’t need… Continue reading There is NO Safe Zone!