black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Two Years Ago, Today…

Two years ago, today, I was admitted to the hospital knowing it would be the first time I met my daughters, and the last time I would see them. Two years ago, today, I experienced the worst heartbreak of my life and honestly, my heart is still on the mend from that experience. I wish… Continue reading Two Years Ago, Today…

7 Gems - You're Welcome, grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Mother’s Day Hangovers: Yup, They’re a Thing…

Whhhheeeewwwwwww!!! *wipes forehead* We made it! We made it through Mother’s Day!  A day we may have dreaded, may have prepared for, or may have had some really unexpected things come up for us; but we made it! Pat yourself on the back because you deserve it! So…. anybody else have an emotional hangover after… Continue reading Mother’s Day Hangovers: Yup, They’re a Thing…

black angel moms, grief & loss, Parenting Afterwards/The Aftermath, Trying to figure this all out

This is What (Bereaved) Motherhood Looks Like

When I was younger, I had all kinds of ideas about what kind of mother I wanted to, and was going to be.  Largely, this was modeled after my own mother’s way of mothering me, but it was also a commitment I had to showing up for little life (or lives) I created in all… Continue reading This is What (Bereaved) Motherhood Looks Like

7 Gems - You're Welcome, grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Parenting Afterwards/The Aftermath, Trying to figure this all out

Lemme Check… Yup! Still Hard

Photo by: @CRF.pics (IG) How much time is “enough time” for a person to be “over” their loss? How many of you have been asked if you’re STILL having a hard time since your loss? I’m grateful that question doesn’t usually come in my direction anymore (probably because I’m a little feisty. *shrugs* blame it… Continue reading Lemme Check… Yup! Still Hard

grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

The Intersection of Joy X Pain

𝅘𝅥𝅰𝅘𝅥𝅰 JOY!!! And pain Are like Sunshine!!! And rain JOY!!! And pain Are like Sunshine and rain 𝅘𝅥𝅰𝅘𝅥𝅰 If you didn’t start singing along w/ the Maze featuring Frankie Beverly version OR the Rob Base version, we can’t be friends! *Abrupt change of energy starting… now* I recently had the experience of shopping for my… Continue reading The Intersection of Joy X Pain

grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Everybody Wants to Talk About the Baby… Until They Don’t

Have you ever noticed how OBSESSED people are with babies? I mean really, think about it for a sec… People will speak to a baby before they speak to that kid’s parent. They will ask you when you’re going to have children if you’re partnered and why you haven’t “settled down to have some kids… Continue reading Everybody Wants to Talk About the Baby… Until They Don’t

grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

#NormalizeBreakdowns

Photo by @Artsy_Solomon_Films Can we all do each other a favor? Can we all take a break from trying to maintain this super-person status where we don’t feel things deeply, don’t get overwhelmed, don’t struggle, don’t feel like everything is just too damn much? Can we have a moment of honesty and transparency where we… Continue reading #NormalizeBreakdowns

7 Gems - You're Welcome, black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Here’s What I Want You to Know

  I’ve been having conversations recently (with myself and others; don’t judge me for talking to myself) to help ground, support, and facilitate some healing. I decided to make another 7 gem list to share with you & add some resources below to help you on your journey to healing.  Check it out: You did… Continue reading Here’s What I Want You to Know

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Just When You Thought You Were Cool..

It’s PAIL Awareness Month y’all! For those who are unfamiliar, PAIL stands for Pregnancy and Infant Loss and encompasses all perinatal loss from early miscarriage to SIDS.  It’s a time where there are many options for angel parents to honor, memorialize and acknowledge their lost little one’s in a very public way. In fairness, this… Continue reading Just When You Thought You Were Cool..

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

TESTIFY!!!!!!!!!!

There’s power in telling your story.  People say that all the time but there are so many factors playing into what makes us all comfortable to do so. We usually need a few things: safety, validation, room or space to share, understanding, drive and even courage. I read this saying (and use this saying for… Continue reading TESTIFY!!!!!!!!!!