7 Gems - You're Welcome, black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Here’s What I Want You to Know

  I’ve been having conversations recently (with myself and others; don’t judge me for talking to myself) to help ground, support, and facilitate some healing. I decided to make another 7 gem list to share with you & add some resources below to help you on your journey to healing.  Check it out: You did… Continue reading Here’s What I Want You to Know

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Just When You Thought You Were Cool..

It’s PAIL Awareness Month y’all! For those who are unfamiliar, PAIL stands for Pregnancy and Infant Loss and encompasses all perinatal loss from early miscarriage to SIDS.  It’s a time where there are many options for angel parents to honor, memorialize and acknowledge their lost little one’s in a very public way. In fairness, this… Continue reading Just When You Thought You Were Cool..

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

TESTIFY!!!!!!!!!!

There’s power in telling your story.  People say that all the time but there are so many factors playing into what makes us all comfortable to do so. We usually need a few things: safety, validation, room or space to share, understanding, drive and even courage. I read this saying (and use this saying for… Continue reading TESTIFY!!!!!!!!!!

grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Use Your Senses: Healing Through Bodywork

Too often I think we forget that we have 5 (sometimes 6) senses. You remember those lessons from preschool and early elementary school where you were encouraged to identify what you could see, taste, smell, feel and hear? If you have access to all of these senses, I think we sometimes take them for granted.… Continue reading Use Your Senses: Healing Through Bodywork

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Angel-Versary

This time last year (6/6/17), I was conducting an audit for work, rubbing my slightly protruding belly, and excited about whether we’d be able to see the sex of our babies at our ultrasound & testing appointment at the Antenatal Testing Unit later that afternoon. I also was slightly concerned because of some leaking I… Continue reading Angel-Versary

black angel moms, grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all, Uncategorized

It’s Complicated…

It's that thing you say when you think folx won’t understand or when you simply don’t feel like explaining something to others. Sometimes it’s the thing you say when you’re trying to make sense of your position but in truth, it doesn’t even fully make sense to YOU so, it’s complicated. It’s been a while… Continue reading It’s Complicated…

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out, TTC (trying to conceive)

Forced Choices

Have you ever played Would You Rather? It’s this silly game that prompts you to answer the craziest questions making a choice between two unfavorable responses. Both choices are crappy and usually require you to pick which is less gross, less painful or less devastating. Either way, a sacrifice has to be made and you… Continue reading Forced Choices

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Who Are You Now…?

There are times when you notice things about yourself that seem a bit foreign.  They’re things that you don’t recall doing or thinking… ways of being that seem unlike the you, you remember. Maybe you’re more harsh than you were before. Maybe you’re more sentimental. Maybe you’re more standoffish and aloof… maybe you can’t really… Continue reading Who Are You Now…?

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trying to figure this all out

Walking Forward, Backwards…

Have you ever wondered just what in the hell was happening in your life? Like seriously, what in the world is going on with this thing?! Sometimes, it seems like things are going just as you’d like them too. Other times, it seems like somebody is playing a cruel joke on you and you’re left… Continue reading Walking Forward, Backwards…

grief & loss, Trauma of it all, TTC (trying to conceive)

Facing Fears

Sometimes it's really hard to be vulnerable. It's difficult to share your deepest darkest fears with someone else and allow them to see the cracks in the facade you maintain everyday.  We all wear masks to an extent. We put our face on to go and deal with the world, handle our business and keep… Continue reading Facing Fears