7 Gems - You're Welcome, grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Parenting Afterwards/The Aftermath, Trying to figure this all out

Lemme Check… Yup! Still Hard

Photo by: @CRF.pics (IG) How much time is “enough time” for a person to be “over” their loss? How many of you have been asked if you’re STILL having a hard time since your loss? I’m grateful that question doesn’t usually come in my direction anymore (probably because I’m a little feisty. *shrugs* blame it… Continue reading Lemme Check… Yup! Still Hard

grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

The Intersection of Joy X Pain

𝅘𝅥𝅰𝅘𝅥𝅰 JOY!!! And pain Are like Sunshine!!! And rain JOY!!! And pain Are like Sunshine and rain 𝅘𝅥𝅰𝅘𝅥𝅰 If you didn’t start singing along w/ the Maze featuring Frankie Beverly version OR the Rob Base version, we can’t be friends! *Abrupt change of energy starting… now* I recently had the experience of shopping for my… Continue reading The Intersection of Joy X Pain

grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Everybody Wants to Talk About the Baby… Until They Don’t

Have you ever noticed how OBSESSED people are with babies? I mean really, think about it for a sec… People will speak to a baby before they speak to that kid’s parent. They will ask you when you’re going to have children if you’re partnered and why you haven’t “settled down to have some kids… Continue reading Everybody Wants to Talk About the Baby… Until They Don’t

grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

#NormalizeBreakdowns

Photo by @Artsy_Solomon_Films Can we all do each other a favor? Can we all take a break from trying to maintain this super-person status where we don’t feel things deeply, don’t get overwhelmed, don’t struggle, don’t feel like everything is just too damn much? Can we have a moment of honesty and transparency where we… Continue reading #NormalizeBreakdowns

7 Gems - You're Welcome, black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Here’s What I Want You to Know

  I’ve been having conversations recently (with myself and others; don’t judge me for talking to myself) to help ground, support, and facilitate some healing. I decided to make another 7 gem list to share with you & add some resources below to help you on your journey to healing.  Check it out: You did… Continue reading Here’s What I Want You to Know

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Just When You Thought You Were Cool..

It’s PAIL Awareness Month y’all! For those who are unfamiliar, PAIL stands for Pregnancy and Infant Loss and encompasses all perinatal loss from early miscarriage to SIDS.  It’s a time where there are many options for angel parents to honor, memorialize and acknowledge their lost little one’s in a very public way. In fairness, this… Continue reading Just When You Thought You Were Cool..

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

TESTIFY!!!!!!!!!!

There’s power in telling your story.  People say that all the time but there are so many factors playing into what makes us all comfortable to do so. We usually need a few things: safety, validation, room or space to share, understanding, drive and even courage. I read this saying (and use this saying for… Continue reading TESTIFY!!!!!!!!!!

grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Use Your Senses: Healing Through Bodywork

Too often I think we forget that we have 5 (sometimes 6) senses. You remember those lessons from preschool and early elementary school where you were encouraged to identify what you could see, taste, smell, feel and hear? If you have access to all of these senses, I think we sometimes take them for granted.… Continue reading Use Your Senses: Healing Through Bodywork

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Angel-Versary

This time last year (6/6/17), I was conducting an audit for work, rubbing my slightly protruding belly, and excited about whether we’d be able to see the sex of our babies at our ultrasound & testing appointment at the Antenatal Testing Unit later that afternoon. I also was slightly concerned because of some leaking I… Continue reading Angel-Versary

black angel moms, grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all, Uncategorized

It’s Complicated…

It's that thing you say when you think folx won’t understand or when you simply don’t feel like explaining something to others. Sometimes it’s the thing you say when you’re trying to make sense of your position but in truth, it doesn’t even fully make sense to YOU so, it’s complicated. It’s been a while… Continue reading It’s Complicated…