black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

The Blame Game… and why it’s trash

We've all done it. Made up a story in our head about why our baby(ies) died. Let me be clear; I'm NOT referring to those situations where a physician told you something specific contributed to your loss (e.g., chromosomal issue, something causing issues with implantation, etc.). I'm talking about those losses that have no clear… Continue reading The Blame Game… and why it’s trash

black angel moms, grief & loss, Parenting Afterwards/The Aftermath, Trying to figure this all out

What do I say to the one’s that lived..?

Photo by: ChildrenNatureNetwork Recently I've been in several discussions with loss parents about navigating healing in the entire family. The process of healing after loss is layered, nuanced, and varied. You're dealing with 1) your own healing, 2) any potential partner's healing, 3) reintegration into family & friend-life, 4) and figuring out how to talk… Continue reading What do I say to the one’s that lived..?

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trying to figure this all out

Mother’s Day Moxie

photo by: Dazzle-Jam. SO much power in this photo! Moxie! Last weekend was International Bereaved Mother’s Day.  A time to honor the identity of “mother” that so many loss moms/angel moms want to claim, but from which they feel barred.  Such is the nature of what is commonly known as disenfranchised loss. Losses like these… Continue reading Mother’s Day Moxie