7 Gems - You're Welcome, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Solo Dolo: Feeling Alone in Grief

No one seems to understand. No one cares about my experience.  No one, not even my partner or family, feels the depth of this pain.  The world just keeps on spinning. Everyone just keeps on living… yet I’m stuck feeling like I’m screaming in the dark and no one can hear me. Does this sound… Continue reading Solo Dolo: Feeling Alone in Grief

grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Parenting Afterwards/The Aftermath, Trying to figure this all out

Decision Point: I got time TODAY!

Photo by: @Khaparazzi I’ve got a story for y’all… So a few weekends back, my spouse, myself, and our son are by our pool grilling.  It’s Memorial Day weekend so lots of folx are out enjoying the weather and water. I’m minding my business, getting my grill-master on and feeling pretty damn proud of myself… Continue reading Decision Point: I got time TODAY!

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Two Years Ago, Today…

Two years ago, today, I was admitted to the hospital knowing it would be the first time I met my daughters, and the last time I would see them. Two years ago, today, I experienced the worst heartbreak of my life and honestly, my heart is still on the mend from that experience. I wish… Continue reading Two Years Ago, Today…

7 Gems - You're Welcome, grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Mother’s Day Hangovers: Yup, They’re a Thing…

Whhhheeeewwwwwww!!! *wipes forehead* We made it! We made it through Mother’s Day!  A day we may have dreaded, may have prepared for, or may have had some really unexpected things come up for us; but we made it! Pat yourself on the back because you deserve it! So…. anybody else have an emotional hangover after… Continue reading Mother’s Day Hangovers: Yup, They’re a Thing…

black angel moms, grief & loss, Parenting Afterwards/The Aftermath, Trying to figure this all out

This is What (Bereaved) Motherhood Looks Like

When I was younger, I had all kinds of ideas about what kind of mother I wanted to, and was going to be.  Largely, this was modeled after my own mother’s way of mothering me, but it was also a commitment I had to showing up for little life (or lives) I created in all… Continue reading This is What (Bereaved) Motherhood Looks Like

7 Gems - You're Welcome, grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Parenting Afterwards/The Aftermath, Trying to figure this all out

Lemme Check… Yup! Still Hard

Photo by: @CRF.pics (IG) How much time is “enough time” for a person to be “over” their loss? How many of you have been asked if you’re STILL having a hard time since your loss? I’m grateful that question doesn’t usually come in my direction anymore (probably because I’m a little feisty. *shrugs* blame it… Continue reading Lemme Check… Yup! Still Hard

grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

The Intersection of Joy X Pain

𝅘𝅥𝅰𝅘𝅥𝅰 JOY!!! And pain Are like Sunshine!!! And rain JOY!!! And pain Are like Sunshine and rain 𝅘𝅥𝅰𝅘𝅥𝅰 If you didn’t start singing along w/ the Maze featuring Frankie Beverly version OR the Rob Base version, we can’t be friends! *Abrupt change of energy starting… now* I recently had the experience of shopping for my… Continue reading The Intersection of Joy X Pain

grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Everybody Wants to Talk About the Baby… Until They Don’t

Have you ever noticed how OBSESSED people are with babies? I mean really, think about it for a sec… People will speak to a baby before they speak to that kid’s parent. They will ask you when you’re going to have children if you’re partnered and why you haven’t “settled down to have some kids… Continue reading Everybody Wants to Talk About the Baby… Until They Don’t