We've all done it. Made up a story in our head about why our baby(ies) died. Let me be clear; I'm NOT referring to those situations where a physician told you something specific contributed to your loss (e.g., chromosomal issue, something causing issues with implantation, etc.). I'm talking about those losses that have no clear… Continue reading The Blame Game… and why it’s trash
Photo by: ChildrenNatureNetwork Recently I've been in several discussions with loss parents about navigating healing in the entire family. The process of healing after loss is layered, nuanced, and varied. You're dealing with 1) your own healing, 2) any potential partner's healing, 3) reintegration into family & friend-life, 4) and figuring out how to talk… Continue reading What do I say to the one’s that lived..?
photo by: Dazzle-Jam. SO much power in this photo! Moxie! Last weekend was International Bereaved Mother’s Day. A time to honor the identity of “mother” that so many loss moms/angel moms want to claim, but from which they feel barred. Such is the nature of what is commonly known as disenfranchised loss. Losses like these… Continue reading Mother’s Day Moxie
In January of 2017, I was beginning my IVF journey. I hoped it would work. It was my first try, I was scared of all the needles to come, and slowly trying to forget about all the money we just dropped on the hope of creating family. January 2020... three years later, I am a… Continue reading The Journal That Saved Me
As we round out this #PAILAwareness month on our last week of October, I want to highlight another Black Angel Mom out here doing AMAZING things! Her debut book is about to be released soon and she has graciously agreed to share a snippet with you. Her book titled, From Three Heartbeats to One: A… Continue reading #BAMsCreate2019: BAM Keisha
Got a new #BAMGuestBloggerExperience entry for y'all! BAM Cassandra (who has also submitted some of her work for #BAMsCreate2019 (check out her poetry here), has also written something extra for you all to get to know her, and her story better. In this entry, she tackles her journey of figuring out who she is post-loss… Continue reading Who Am I Now..?
Let me tell y'all something; BAM's are out here doing AMAZING THINGS!!! Losing a child is a horrible experience that often is unparalleled in terms of the amount of pain it causes. In the face of that pain, we are out here creating, continuing to live, working, supporting, processing, and healing. For this 4th week… Continue reading #BAMsCreate2019: BAM Sasha
Kicking off #BAMsCreate2019 for PAIL Awareness Month is Black Angel Mom Rhonda M. Check out the beauty she created capturing the intensity of the perinatal loss experience. BAM Rhonda is also a poet. "Ain't I Still a Mother Too" is a beautifully written piece looking at that confusing place post-loss, where you are trying to… Continue reading #BAMsCreate2019: BAM Rhonda M.
This month, in honor of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness, BlackAngelMom is showcasing BAM's (Black Angel Mom's) who have created beauty alongside and in spite of their grief. Losing your child is arguably one of the worst things than any person can experience. It isn't easy to go forward. It isn't easy to wake up… Continue reading #PAILAwareness + #BlackAngelMom = …
Two years ago, today, I was admitted to the hospital knowing it would be the first time I met my daughters, and the last time I would see them. Two years ago, today, I experienced the worst heartbreak of my life and honestly, my heart is still on the mend from that experience. I wish… Continue reading Two Years Ago, Today…
