black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

The Blame Game… and why it’s trash

We've all done it. Made up a story in our head about why our baby(ies) died. Let me be clear; I'm NOT referring to those situations where a physician told you something specific contributed to your loss (e.g., chromosomal issue, something causing issues with implantation, etc.). I'm talking about those losses that have no clear… Continue reading The Blame Game… and why it’s trash

black angel moms, grief & loss, Parenting Afterwards/The Aftermath, Trying to figure this all out

What do I say to the one’s that lived..?

Photo by: ChildrenNatureNetwork Recently I've been in several discussions with loss parents about navigating healing in the entire family. The process of healing after loss is layered, nuanced, and varied. You're dealing with 1) your own healing, 2) any potential partner's healing, 3) reintegration into family & friend-life, 4) and figuring out how to talk… Continue reading What do I say to the one’s that lived..?

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trying to figure this all out

Mother’s Day Moxie

photo by: Dazzle-Jam. SO much power in this photo! Moxie! Last weekend was International Bereaved Mother’s Day.  A time to honor the identity of “mother” that so many loss moms/angel moms want to claim, but from which they feel barred.  Such is the nature of what is commonly known as disenfranchised loss. Losses like these… Continue reading Mother’s Day Moxie

#BAMsCreate, black angel moms, grief & loss, Trying to figure this all out

#BAMsCreate2019: BAM Keisha

As we round out this #PAILAwareness month on our last week of October, I want to highlight another Black Angel Mom out here doing AMAZING things! Her debut book is about to be released soon and she has graciously agreed to share a snippet with you. Her book titled, From Three Heartbeats to One: A… Continue reading #BAMsCreate2019: BAM Keisha

#BAMsCreate, black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all

#BAMsCreate2019: BAM Sasha

Let me tell y'all something; BAM's are out here doing AMAZING THINGS!!! Losing a child is a horrible experience that often is unparalleled in terms of the amount of pain it causes. In the face of that pain, we are out here creating, continuing to live, working, supporting, processing, and healing. For this 4th week… Continue reading #BAMsCreate2019: BAM Sasha

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Two Years Ago, Today…

Two years ago, today, I was admitted to the hospital knowing it would be the first time I met my daughters, and the last time I would see them. Two years ago, today, I experienced the worst heartbreak of my life and honestly, my heart is still on the mend from that experience. I wish… Continue reading Two Years Ago, Today…