black angel moms, grief & loss, Parenting Afterwards/The Aftermath, Trying to figure this all out

This is What (Bereaved) Motherhood Looks Like

When I was younger, I had all kinds of ideas about what kind of mother I wanted to, and was going to be.  Largely, this was modeled after my own mother’s way of mothering me, but it was also a commitment I had to showing up for little life (or lives) I created in all… Continue reading This is What (Bereaved) Motherhood Looks Like

grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

The Intersection of Joy X Pain

𝅘𝅥𝅰𝅘𝅥𝅰 JOY!!! And pain Are like Sunshine!!! And rain JOY!!! And pain Are like Sunshine and rain 𝅘𝅥𝅰𝅘𝅥𝅰 If you didn’t start singing along w/ the Maze featuring Frankie Beverly version OR the Rob Base version, we can’t be friends! *Abrupt change of energy starting… now* I recently had the experience of shopping for my… Continue reading The Intersection of Joy X Pain

grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Everybody Wants to Talk About the Baby… Until They Don’t

Have you ever noticed how OBSESSED people are with babies? I mean really, think about it for a sec… People will speak to a baby before they speak to that kid’s parent. They will ask you when you’re going to have children if you’re partnered and why you haven’t “settled down to have some kids… Continue reading Everybody Wants to Talk About the Baby… Until They Don’t

7 Gems - You're Welcome, Trying to figure this all out

Leave it in 2018

Hello my neighbors!!   It’s been WAAAAAAYYYYYY too long since I’ve posted and let me be the first to say, I’ve missed tending to this space. Honestly, I’ve been going through it the past few months. The universe is testing me in lots of ways and I needed some time to center, get in better alignment,… Continue reading Leave it in 2018

7 Gems - You're Welcome, black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Here’s What I Want You to Know

  I’ve been having conversations recently (with myself and others; don’t judge me for talking to myself) to help ground, support, and facilitate some healing. I decided to make another 7 gem list to share with you & add some resources below to help you on your journey to healing.  Check it out: You did… Continue reading Here’s What I Want You to Know

grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Use Your Senses: Healing Through Bodywork

Too often I think we forget that we have 5 (sometimes 6) senses. You remember those lessons from preschool and early elementary school where you were encouraged to identify what you could see, taste, smell, feel and hear? If you have access to all of these senses, I think we sometimes take them for granted.… Continue reading Use Your Senses: Healing Through Bodywork

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out, TTC (trying to conceive)

Forced Choices

Have you ever played Would You Rather? It’s this silly game that prompts you to answer the craziest questions making a choice between two unfavorable responses. Both choices are crappy and usually require you to pick which is less gross, less painful or less devastating. Either way, a sacrifice has to be made and you… Continue reading Forced Choices

7 Gems - You're Welcome, Laugh through the pain

Siblings From Hell: Shame & Guilt

No, I’m not talking about Cinderella’s evil step-sisters or those creepy twins from The Shining. I’m talking about these sneaky little mofo’s that show up in life right when times are already hard. How do they show up? Shame = I am wrong | I should be something/someone different | who I am is not… Continue reading Siblings From Hell: Shame & Guilt

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out

Who Are You Now…?

There are times when you notice things about yourself that seem a bit foreign.  They’re things that you don’t recall doing or thinking… ways of being that seem unlike the you, you remember. Maybe you’re more harsh than you were before. Maybe you’re more sentimental. Maybe you’re more standoffish and aloof… maybe you can’t really… Continue reading Who Are You Now…?

black angel moms, Trauma of it all, Trying to figure this all out, TTC (trying to conceive)

On Creating Families

Let's face it, the road to parenthood isn't always paved in gold and lined with roses. If you've found my blog you're either a person who has been trying to conceive & lost a baby, has children and lost a child somewhere along the way or are supporting someone in either of the situations mentioned… Continue reading On Creating Families