7 Gems - You're Welcome, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, TTC (trying to conceive)

The Body Remembers: Clearing What We Hold

I helped to co-facilitate an amazing event this weekend. It’s a yearly get together for centering, validating and healing which has proven to be one of the things I look forward to most despite my grumbling about being outside in cold weather. So many gems were freely given and received during the day-long event but… Continue reading The Body Remembers: Clearing What We Hold

7 Gems - You're Welcome, black angel moms, Trauma of it all, TTC (trying to conceive)

Counting

Have you ever considered how much we count?  We’re either paying attention to how much time we have before needing to get to work or counting down to a much needed vacation or counting the hours until the work day is over or counting the time you have until some deadline. Our lives are inundated… Continue reading Counting

Laugh through the pain, TTC (trying to conceive)

You Gon’ Get This Lesson in Patience Today!

Have you seen that old Kevin Hart comedy special where he was talking about how his dad would tell people (including him), “you gon’ learn today!”?  That was one of his funniest specials IMO because it really drove home the point that whatever you didn’t already understand, you were about to learn it. QUICKLY! As… Continue reading You Gon’ Get This Lesson in Patience Today!

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Uncategorized

Where Did You Go? Missing Me

I don’t know about y’all but sometimes, I just feel missing. Absent from a space. Like I’m either not really there or I don’t want to be there, or like who I thought I was, just simply doesn’t exist anymore. Occasionally I get a glimpse of me but it’s never quite clear. I’m never around… Continue reading Where Did You Go? Missing Me

black angel moms, grief & loss, Poetry, Trauma of it all, Uncategorized

Sitting in Solidarity…

Sitting in solidarity… In solidarity with people who are crying People who are not joyous at a time when everyone tells you that you should be In solidarity with those who have lost loved ones Those who are alone and empty Those who cannot give thanks in this moment Those who are angry at this… Continue reading Sitting in Solidarity…

7 Gems - You're Welcome, black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all

When Is It Time?

Weeks…. Months… years… decades even… Time has passed since your loss. Maybe you’re still a wreck. Maybe the days have gotten a little easier as they drag on. Maybe you’re somewhere in the middle. Maybe you can look at the old ultrasound photos… the “mom-to-be” cards… the pictures after they were born and maybe, maybe… Continue reading When Is It Time?

7 Gems - You're Welcome, black angel moms, grief & loss, Laugh through the pain

7 Things I Oddly Miss…

There are a lot of things I miss about being pregnant but there are a select few that really stick out and feel ever-present as this year comes to a close. The consistent intense feeling of grief fades a bit over time but the shorter, intermittent bursts of sadness are hella powerful even 6 months… Continue reading 7 Things I Oddly Miss…

7 Gems - You're Welcome, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all

7 Things non-bae Does that BAE Never Would

Loss is hard.  It’s one of the hardest things (if not the hardest) that you’ll ever experience in your life.  Different losses hurt differently and different people react differently to loss. I want to say there’s no wrong way to react but… I’d kind of be lying so I’m not going to do that y’all.… Continue reading 7 Things non-bae Does that BAE Never Would

7 Gems - You're Welcome, black angel moms, Uncategorized

7 Times You Just KNOW You’d be a Better Momma

So…. this list is kind of in jest but kinda not. I’ll preface by saying that none of these things are indicative of someone’s actual parenting ability all the time and we (I) should probably stop judging but… it is what it is and I am judging. I think experiencing perinatal loss makes you keenly… Continue reading 7 Times You Just KNOW You’d be a Better Momma

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Uncategorized

The Ultimate Empathy

So your girl Gabby is releasing or has released a book talking about her struggles overall. I don’t know if the entire book is about her struggles with infertility but that portion of the content has been all the buzz on the internet.  If you know me personally or have read another recent post, you… Continue reading The Ultimate Empathy