7 Gems - You're Welcome, black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all

When Is It Time?

Weeks…. Months… years… decades even… Time has passed since your loss. Maybe you’re still a wreck. Maybe the days have gotten a little easier as they drag on. Maybe you’re somewhere in the middle. Maybe you can look at the old ultrasound photos… the “mom-to-be” cards… the pictures after they were born and maybe, maybe… Continue reading When Is It Time?

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7 Things I Oddly Miss…

There are a lot of things I miss about being pregnant but there are a select few that really stick out and feel ever-present as this year comes to a close. The consistent intense feeling of grief fades a bit over time but the shorter, intermittent bursts of sadness are hella powerful even 6 months… Continue reading 7 Things I Oddly Miss…

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LOL @ Your Plans…

When 2017 rolled around, I was focused. I planned to get this dissertation mostly completed, and spend my year gestating my future child. I had come off of surgery at the end of 2016 to remove two sneaky fibroids and a failed IUI (Intra-Uterine Insemination) cycle at the end of the year.  I was disappointed… Continue reading LOL @ Your Plans…

7 Gems - You're Welcome, grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all

The Value of Trigger Warnings

You know that feeling when something’s going on with you and you feel like you then see evidence of it everywhere? Like when you’re going through a breakup but everywhere you turn, you seem to see couples cuddled up, cuffing season is in full swing and everybody-and-their-mother is getting engaged? Yeah, you know what I’m… Continue reading The Value of Trigger Warnings

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There is NO Safe Zone!

*Language Warning so if you're offended by curses, pick another post ;-)* This post is going to be short and sweet because the truth is always more concise.  I heard about a study that found people who lie use more words overall than people who tell the truth.  Makes sense, right? The truth doesn’t need… Continue reading There is NO Safe Zone!

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7 Ways to Practice Gratitude

So a holiday is coming up.  I won’t go into the sordid history of the “relationship” between indigenous people and pilgrims   but the general message we’re supposed to get out of this holiday is to be grateful for the blessings you have received and to break bread with family and friends alike.  Sometimes, it’s hard… Continue reading 7 Ways to Practice Gratitude

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I Don’t Hate Your Baby… I Just Really Miss Mine

I used to love babies. If someone I know had a baby, I’d be one of the first people around wanting to hold, talk to, cuddle and love on the little one. I can remember my cousin coming over soon after having my god-daughter and me trying to take her out of the car seat… Continue reading I Don’t Hate Your Baby… I Just Really Miss Mine

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Happiest, Saddest Place…

What’s your happy place?  The place you go where you feel at your best, your joy level is at it’s highest and you try to go as often as possible just to meet that need?  For me, that place is Central Florida.  I know Disney is typically deemed the “happiest place on earth” and though… Continue reading Happiest, Saddest Place…

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Poppin’ Pills & Bottles!

Provocative titles get more lookie-loos so, Welcome!   So… can we have an honest discussion?  Can we have an honest discussion about the ways we cope with grief & loss and specifically, how we use things to get us through tough times?  Sure, there’s therapy, there’s avoidance, there’s journaling and rituals, there’s even hospitalization if… Continue reading Poppin’ Pills & Bottles!