We've all done it. Made up a story in our head about why our baby(ies) died. Let me be clear; I'm NOT referring to those situations where a physician told you something specific contributed to your loss (e.g., chromosomal issue, something causing issues with implantation, etc.). I'm talking about those losses that have no clear… Continue reading The Blame Game… and why it’s trash
Photo by: ChildrenNatureNetwork Recently I've been in several discussions with loss parents about navigating healing in the entire family. The process of healing after loss is layered, nuanced, and varied. You're dealing with 1) your own healing, 2) any potential partner's healing, 3) reintegration into family & friend-life, 4) and figuring out how to talk… Continue reading What do I say to the one’s that lived..?
It's October again. Pregnancy and Infant Loss (PAIL) Awareness Month is well underway, and PAIL Awareness Week is happening as we speak! Where did this year go?! Every year, I like to do something specific in addition to the wave of light (happening 10/15/20), any remembrance walks, and my usual candle lighting. The first year,… Continue reading Love Notes For You
photo by: Dazzle-Jam. SO much power in this photo! Moxie! Last weekend was International Bereaved Motherโs Day. A time to honor the identity of โmotherโ that so many loss moms/angel moms want to claim, but from which they feel barred. Such is the nature of what is commonly known as disenfranchised loss. Losses like these… Continue reading Mother’s Day Moxie
Welp! Weโre in a pandemic. Can you believe it?! It all seems so surreal sometimesโฆ things seem normal-ish, but then weird asf the moment you step outside your home. I know a lot of people had high hopes for 2020. Maybe you were hoping for a reset of some sort; a new way of ushering… Continue reading Shifting Ground: Finding Footing in Times of Uncertainty
No one seems to understand. No one cares about my experience.ย No one, not even my partner or family, feels the depth of this pain.ย The world just keeps on spinning. Everyone just keeps on livingโฆ yet Iโm stuck feeling like Iโm screaming in the dark and no one can hear me. Does this sound… Continue reading Solo Dolo: Feeling Alone in Grief
Whhhheeeewwwwwww!!! *wipes forehead* We made it! We made it through Motherโs Day! ย A day we may have dreaded, may have prepared for, or may have had some really unexpected things come up for us; but we made it! Pat yourself on the back because you deserve it! Soโฆ. anybody else have an emotional hangover after… Continue reading Motherโs Day Hangovers: Yup, Theyโre a Thingโฆ
๐ ข๐ ข JOY!!! And pain Are like Sunshine!!! And rain JOY!!! And pain Are like Sunshine and rain ๐ ข๐ ข If you didnโt start singing along w/ the Maze featuring Frankie Beverly version OR the Rob Base version, we canโt be friends! *Abrupt change of energy startingโฆ now* I recently had the experience of shopping for my… Continue reading The Intersection of Joy X Pain
Have you ever noticed how OBSESSED people are with babies? I mean really, think about it for a secโฆ People will speak to a baby before they speak to that kidโs parent. They will ask you when youโre going to have children if youโre partnered and why you havenโt โsettled down to have some kids… Continue reading Everybody Wants to Talk About the Babyโฆ Until They Donโt
Photo by @Artsy_Solomon_Films Can we all do each other a favor? Can we all take a break from trying to maintain this super-person status where we donโt feel things deeply, donโt get overwhelmed, donโt struggle, donโt feel like everything is just too damn much? Can we have a moment of honesty and transparency where we… Continue reading #NormalizeBreakdowns
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