“This group has never been for us… it’s been for our grief...not for us.” Privilege is a hot topic nowadays. Most of us have some sort of privilege even if we don’t want to recognize it. There’s racial or ethnic privilege, educational privilege, skin tone privilege, hair texture privilege, financial privilege, age privilege, physical ability… Continue reading The Audacity of… Pregnancy?
Category: grief & loss
Waiting for Rainbows
When you’re trying to get pregnant whether using fertility treatments or not, you’re usually familiar with “the wait”. It’s the period of time between when you last had unprotected sex or your insemination and the earliest date you can test. This varies a little bit depending on if you’re taking an OTC pregnancy test or… Continue reading Waiting for Rainbows
7 Ways to Get a Fresh Start
Losses and grief are really the worst. There's different kinds of loss but grief is experienced with all of them, not just death. I'm going for give you 7 suggestions on how to get a fresh start after experiencing a loss. These are things I've done or plan to do (or things I just think… Continue reading 7 Ways to Get a Fresh Start
So Your Coworker/Family Member/Friend Just Had a Baby…
One of the most difficult things about being an angel mom is the fact that life just continues to move on. You’ve had (probably) one of the most devastating experiences a person could ever have. We’ve lost our babies… little pieces of us that we thought were going to be with us for years and… Continue reading So Your Coworker/Family Member/Friend Just Had a Baby…
When Nubia Fails…
I've been thinking a lot about the experience of angel mom's and the intense feelings of sadness and guilt that accompany the loss of our babies. One thing I consistently struggle with is the fact that I couldn't save my babies. I couldn't protect them from what ultimately happened to them no matter how hard… Continue reading When Nubia Fails…
Fu*k Beyonce
*Admittedly I wrote this the day her photos broke the internet. I'm not as angry/jealous about this as I was...kinda...* Yeah I said it. Ok hear me out before the dragging commences. Of course I don’t mean it the way it sounds but I’m angry. She’s taking beautiful pictures with her full belly, Africa-themed attire,… Continue reading Fu*k Beyonce
We Mourn
We mourn your loss We mourn your life The life you didn’t get to fully live The life we never got to witness you having We mourn our love The love that has no place to go The love that’s built up in our chests so much it hurts We mourn today Because today has… Continue reading We Mourn
Are They Asking About You or Are They Asking You About Her..?
I’m going to tell you a secret… *whispers* partners grieve too. Oh, is that not a secret to you? It’s not to me either but too often, people act like the other parent doesn’t feel as much as the person who was physically pregnant. People sometimes think the other parent wasn’t as invested, didn’t have… Continue reading Are They Asking About You or Are They Asking You About Her..?
7 Ways to Honor Your Angel
There are any different ways to honor your little one that can help with your healing process. If you’re a person that just wants to move on and not think about the baby you lost, this post isn’t for you. But, if you are working through your healing and just feel like you need to… Continue reading 7 Ways to Honor Your Angel
Stages of Grief: 80’s Version
Kubler-Ross (1969) first addressed grief & loss as a series of stages one goes through to ultimately cope with the loss of a loved one. Generally five stages have been identified: denial & isolation, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Some people think these stages are linear meaning you go from one to the next in… Continue reading Stages of Grief: 80’s Version
Black Angel Mom 