7 Gems - You're Welcome, black angel moms, Trauma of it all, TTC (trying to conceive)

Counting

Have you ever considered how much we count?  We’re either paying attention to how much time we have before needing to get to work or counting down to a much needed vacation or counting the hours until the work day is over or counting the time you have until some deadline. Our lives are inundated… Continue reading Counting

7 Gems - You're Welcome, black angel moms, grief & loss

APR’s (Angel Parent Resolutions)

It’s that time of year where folx decide to make resolutions for the coming year.  The time when people proclaim who they’ll continue speaking to, who’s getting cut off, what kind of changes to the diet their making and fitness goals to work out more.  Some people focus on setting better boundaries for themselves while… Continue reading APR’s (Angel Parent Resolutions)

7 Gems - You're Welcome, black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all

When Is It Time?

Weeks…. Months… years… decades even… Time has passed since your loss. Maybe you’re still a wreck. Maybe the days have gotten a little easier as they drag on. Maybe you’re somewhere in the middle. Maybe you can look at the old ultrasound photos… the “mom-to-be” cards… the pictures after they were born and maybe, maybe… Continue reading When Is It Time?

7 Gems - You're Welcome, black angel moms, grief & loss, Laugh through the pain

7 Things I Oddly Miss…

There are a lot of things I miss about being pregnant but there are a select few that really stick out and feel ever-present as this year comes to a close. The consistent intense feeling of grief fades a bit over time but the shorter, intermittent bursts of sadness are hella powerful even 6 months… Continue reading 7 Things I Oddly Miss…

7 Gems - You're Welcome, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all

7 Things non-bae Does that BAE Never Would

Loss is hard.  It’s one of the hardest things (if not the hardest) that you’ll ever experience in your life.  Different losses hurt differently and different people react differently to loss. I want to say there’s no wrong way to react but… I’d kind of be lying so I’m not going to do that y’all.… Continue reading 7 Things non-bae Does that BAE Never Would

7 Gems - You're Welcome, grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all

The Value of Trigger Warnings

You know that feeling when something’s going on with you and you feel like you then see evidence of it everywhere? Like when you’re going through a breakup but everywhere you turn, you seem to see couples cuddled up, cuffing season is in full swing and everybody-and-their-mother is getting engaged? Yeah, you know what I’m… Continue reading The Value of Trigger Warnings

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7 Ways to Practice Gratitude

So a holiday is coming up.  I won’t go into the sordid history of the “relationship” between indigenous people and pilgrims   but the general message we’re supposed to get out of this holiday is to be grateful for the blessings you have received and to break bread with family and friends alike.  Sometimes, it’s hard… Continue reading 7 Ways to Practice Gratitude

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Angel Parent Guide to the Holidays

I don’t know about y’all but I usually love the holidays. I love the great food, the family time, and the general feeling of happiness that seems to be in the air. This holiday season is a bit different though.  We expected to have our infant daughters with us during Thanksgiving dinner and for Christmas.… Continue reading Angel Parent Guide to the Holidays

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7 Times You Just KNOW You’d be a Better Momma

So…. this list is kind of in jest but kinda not. I’ll preface by saying that none of these things are indicative of someone’s actual parenting ability all the time and we (I) should probably stop judging but… it is what it is and I am judging. I think experiencing perinatal loss makes you keenly… Continue reading 7 Times You Just KNOW You’d be a Better Momma