So…. this list is kind of in jest but kinda not. I’ll preface by saying that none of these things are indicative of someone’s actual parenting ability all the time and we (I) should probably stop judging but… it is what it is and I am judging. I think experiencing perinatal loss makes you keenly… Continue reading 7 Times You Just KNOW You’d be a Better Momma
So your girl Gabby is releasing or has released a book talking about her struggles overall. I don’t know if the entire book is about her struggles with infertility but that portion of the content has been all the buzz on the internet. If you know me personally or have read another recent post, you… Continue reading The Ultimate Empathy
On a late night (meaning early evening but for me, it was late to be running the streets) run for snacks & t-shirts, the wife and I ended up at Kohl’s. I personally find this store hit or miss but occasionally I find some gems that I can rock with. There were these cute (looking)… Continue reading The Struggle is Real
Here are 7 times you give zero f*cks.... after perinatal loss... When there’s a party in the community We lost our twins shortly before Pride here in Philly. I believe the parade and such happened on 6/12 and I gave birth to Jora & Aviva on 6/7/17. Someone visited us and asked whether we… Continue reading 7 Times You Give Zero F*cks…
Some days, the hardest thing I have to do is wake up without you. I look at my belly and see an empty space where you should have been. I look in my eyes and see a glassy surface with no sparkle You were the twinkle that lived there. For four months, you lit up… Continue reading Some Days
“This group has never been for us… it’s been for our grief...not for us.” Privilege is a hot topic nowadays. Most of us have some sort of privilege even if we don’t want to recognize it. There’s racial or ethnic privilege, educational privilege, skin tone privilege, hair texture privilege, financial privilege, age privilege, physical ability… Continue reading The Audacity of… Pregnancy?
I've been thinking a lot about the experience of angel mom's and the intense feelings of sadness and guilt that accompany the loss of our babies. One thing I consistently struggle with is the fact that I couldn't save my babies. I couldn't protect them from what ultimately happened to them no matter how hard… Continue reading When Nubia Fails…
*Admittedly I wrote this the day her photos broke the internet. I'm not as angry/jealous about this as I was...kinda...* Yeah I said it. Ok hear me out before the dragging commences. Of course I don’t mean it the way it sounds but I’m angry. She’s taking beautiful pictures with her full belly, Africa-themed attire,… Continue reading Fu*k Beyonce
We mourn your loss We mourn your life The life you didn’t get to fully live The life we never got to witness you having We mourn our love The love that has no place to go The love that’s built up in our chests so much it hurts We mourn today Because today has… Continue reading We Mourn
Perinatal loss is challenging both for the people directly experiencing it and for the people closest to them. For others, though it’s sad, it’s also awkward. People often seem to struggle with what to say and when to say it or what to do and when to do it. Sure, there are your exceptions. Those… Continue reading The “Silent Sadness”… While Black
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