There are a lot of things I miss about being pregnant but there are a select few that really stick out and feel ever-present as this year comes to a close. The consistent intense feeling of grief fades a bit over time but the shorter, intermittent bursts of sadness are hella powerful even 6 months… Continue reading 7 Things I Oddly Miss…
Loss is hard. It’s one of the hardest things (if not the hardest) that you’ll ever experience in your life. Different losses hurt differently and different people react differently to loss. I want to say there’s no wrong way to react but… I’d kind of be lying so I’m not going to do that y’all.… Continue reading 7 Things non-bae Does that BAE Never Would
You know that feeling when something’s going on with you and you feel like you then see evidence of it everywhere? Like when you’re going through a breakup but everywhere you turn, you seem to see couples cuddled up, cuffing season is in full swing and everybody-and-their-mother is getting engaged? Yeah, you know what I’m… Continue reading The Value of Trigger Warnings
*Language Warning so if you're offended by curses, pick another post ;-)* This post is going to be short and sweet because the truth is always more concise. I heard about a study that found people who lie use more words overall than people who tell the truth. Makes sense, right? The truth doesn’t need… Continue reading There is NO Safe Zone!
Provocative titles get more lookie-loos so, Welcome! So… can we have an honest discussion? Can we have an honest discussion about the ways we cope with grief & loss and specifically, how we use things to get us through tough times? Sure, there’s therapy, there’s avoidance, there’s journaling and rituals, there’s even hospitalization if… Continue reading Poppin’ Pills & Bottles!
*Singing* It’s a thin line…. Between love and hate! Check out my list below of 7 things you used to love but now you hate or you used to hate but now you love. Wanting, making and having babies can change some thangs! Your Period I think most of us have seen those Buzzfeed articles… Continue reading Thin Line Between Love & Hate
I want to talk to you all about privilege. We all have it to some degree and even people who feel like they are the under-privileged, may have some level of privilege when they really think about it. It can come in many forms and today folx, I’ve got to mention fertility treatment privilege. … Continue reading Fertility Tx Privilege
There are obviously films that you shouldn’t watch or suggest your friends/loved one’s watch after experiencing perinatal loss. Obviously films like What Dreams May Come, Bambi, and Beaches come to mind. There are also several films & TV shows that surprisingly I’d suggest avoiding even though on the surface, they might seem like the perfect… Continue reading What NOT to Watch!
Trying to conceive (ttc) is one of the most challenging things a person can experience. There are so many things to navigate and despite the appearance of people “popping up pregnant”, it’s really not as easy as it sounds. There are a few things that I know I learned about myself and possibly, you’ve learned… Continue reading Things You learn About Yourself in TTC
Here are 7 times you give zero f*cks.... after perinatal loss... When there’s a party in the community We lost our twins shortly before Pride here in Philly. I believe the parade and such happened on 6/12 and I gave birth to Jora & Aviva on 6/7/17. Someone visited us and asked whether we… Continue reading 7 Times You Give Zero F*cks…