I started thinking about what I wanted to do for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month. I still haven’t entirely figured it out yet because though I plan to do some of the things on this list, I want to do some other things too (ever the overachiever…). Regardless of that, I wanted to let… Continue reading What You Can Do for PAIL Awareness Month
When you’re going through something, sometimes the last thing you want to do is go into a full time or part time job. Your brain just isn’t there, your focus is off, you may be emotional, edgy or distant. Either way, the last thing on your mind is the grind of a 9-5 so to… Continue reading The Privilege of Taking Time Off
If you read my bio, you know that I’m a clinician. I specifically am trained in marriage couple & family therapy as well as sex therapy. A good therapist understands the value of therapy and likely either has their own therapist or has been in therapy themselves at some point. If you can’t process what’s… Continue reading On Being a Therapist in Therapy
There are obviously films that you shouldn’t watch or suggest your friends/loved one’s watch after experiencing perinatal loss. Obviously films like What Dreams May Come, Bambi, and Beaches come to mind. There are also several films & TV shows that surprisingly I’d suggest avoiding even though on the surface, they might seem like the perfect… Continue reading What NOT to Watch!
Here are 7 times you give zero f*cks.... after perinatal loss... When there’s a party in the community We lost our twins shortly before Pride here in Philly. I believe the parade and such happened on 6/12 and I gave birth to Jora & Aviva on 6/7/17. Someone visited us and asked whether we… Continue reading 7 Times You Give Zero F*cks…
Some days, the hardest thing I have to do is wake up without you. I look at my belly and see an empty space where you should have been. I look in my eyes and see a glassy surface with no sparkle You were the twinkle that lived there. For four months, you lit up… Continue reading Some Days
Journey circa 2013 If someone had told me when I was 18 that at 35, I’d be starting a blog about perinatal loss from the black woman’s perspective, I likely wouldn’t have believed them. In my mind, I was going to be married & pregnant by the time I was 24. If someone had told… Continue reading Somebody Shoulda Said Sumthin’
So, many couples experience a lull in sexual activity after the birth of a baby. They’re busy with nursing, waking up all hours of the night, holding babies, consoling babies, changing stinky diapers, washing babies, etc. Raising an infant is like a full time job. Then in addition to parent duties with the little one(s),… Continue reading Annnnd…We’re in a Sex Drought
“Don’t talk about it”, “that’s too sad”, “keep that to yourself… you’ll have another baby”, “people don’t want to hear that”, “why are you telling your business”, “you’re not actually a mom yet”, “yeah that happened to me too but you just don’t talk about those things”... These are some of the shitty things people… Continue reading 7 Reasons You Should Acknowledge Your Angel Babies
“This group has never been for us… it’s been for our grief...not for us.” Privilege is a hot topic nowadays. Most of us have some sort of privilege even if we don’t want to recognize it. There’s racial or ethnic privilege, educational privilege, skin tone privilege, hair texture privilege, financial privilege, age privilege, physical ability… Continue reading The Audacity of… Pregnancy?
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