If you read my bio, you know that I’m a clinician. I specifically am trained in marriage couple & family therapy as well as sex therapy. A good therapist understands the value of therapy and likely either has their own therapist or has been in therapy themselves at some point. If you can’t process what’s… Continue reading On Being a Therapist in Therapy
I want to talk to you all about privilege. We all have it to some degree and even people who feel like they are the under-privileged, may have some level of privilege when they really think about it. It can come in many forms and today folx, I’ve got to mention fertility treatment privilege. … Continue reading Fertility Tx Privilege
There are obviously films that you shouldn’t watch or suggest your friends/loved one’s watch after experiencing perinatal loss. Obviously films like What Dreams May Come, Bambi, and Beaches come to mind. There are also several films & TV shows that surprisingly I’d suggest avoiding even though on the surface, they might seem like the perfect… Continue reading What NOT to Watch!
Some days, the hardest thing I have to do is wake up without you. I look at my belly and see an empty space where you should have been. I look in my eyes and see a glassy surface with no sparkle You were the twinkle that lived there. For four months, you lit up… Continue reading Some Days
Journey circa 2013 If someone had told me when I was 18 that at 35, I’d be starting a blog about perinatal loss from the black woman’s perspective, I likely wouldn’t have believed them. In my mind, I was going to be married & pregnant by the time I was 24. If someone had told… Continue reading Somebody Shoulda Said Sumthin’
So, many couples experience a lull in sexual activity after the birth of a baby. They’re busy with nursing, waking up all hours of the night, holding babies, consoling babies, changing stinky diapers, washing babies, etc. Raising an infant is like a full time job. Then in addition to parent duties with the little one(s),… Continue reading Annnnd…We’re in a Sex Drought
“Don’t talk about it”, “that’s too sad”, “keep that to yourself… you’ll have another baby”, “people don’t want to hear that”, “why are you telling your business”, “you’re not actually a mom yet”, “yeah that happened to me too but you just don’t talk about those things”... These are some of the shitty things people… Continue reading 7 Reasons You Should Acknowledge Your Angel Babies
“This group has never been for us… it’s been for our grief...not for us.” Privilege is a hot topic nowadays. Most of us have some sort of privilege even if we don’t want to recognize it. There’s racial or ethnic privilege, educational privilege, skin tone privilege, hair texture privilege, financial privilege, age privilege, physical ability… Continue reading The Audacity of… Pregnancy?
Losses and grief are really the worst. There's different kinds of loss but grief is experienced with all of them, not just death. I'm going for give you 7 suggestions on how to get a fresh start after experiencing a loss. These are things I've done or plan to do (or things I just think… Continue reading 7 Ways to Get a Fresh Start
One of the most difficult things about being an angel mom is the fact that life just continues to move on. You’ve had (probably) one of the most devastating experiences a person could ever have. We’ve lost our babies… little pieces of us that we thought were going to be with us for years and… Continue reading So Your Coworker/Family Member/Friend Just Had a Baby…
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