7 Gems - You're Welcome, grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all

The Value of Trigger Warnings

You know that feeling when something’s going on with you and you feel like you then see evidence of it everywhere? Like when you’re going through a breakup but everywhere you turn, you seem to see couples cuddled up, cuffing season is in full swing and everybody-and-their-mother is getting engaged? Yeah, you know what I’m… Continue reading The Value of Trigger Warnings

grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all, Uncategorized

There is NO Safe Zone!

*Language Warning so if you're offended by curses, pick another post ;-)* This post is going to be short and sweet because the truth is always more concise.  I heard about a study that found people who lie use more words overall than people who tell the truth.  Makes sense, right? The truth doesn’t need… Continue reading There is NO Safe Zone!

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7 Ways to Practice Gratitude

So a holiday is coming up.  I won’t go into the sordid history of the “relationship” between indigenous people and pilgrims   but the general message we’re supposed to get out of this holiday is to be grateful for the blessings you have received and to break bread with family and friends alike.  Sometimes, it’s hard… Continue reading 7 Ways to Practice Gratitude

black angel moms, grief & loss, Uncategorized

I Don’t Hate Your Baby… I Just Really Miss Mine

I used to love babies. If someone I know had a baby, I’d be one of the first people around wanting to hold, talk to, cuddle and love on the little one. I can remember my cousin coming over soon after having my god-daughter and me trying to take her out of the car seat… Continue reading I Don’t Hate Your Baby… I Just Really Miss Mine

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Happiest, Saddest Place…

What’s your happy place?  The place you go where you feel at your best, your joy level is at it’s highest and you try to go as often as possible just to meet that need?  For me, that place is Central Florida.  I know Disney is typically deemed the “happiest place on earth” and though… Continue reading Happiest, Saddest Place…

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What NOT to Watch!

There are obviously films that you shouldn’t watch or suggest your friends/loved one’s watch after experiencing perinatal loss.  Obviously films like What Dreams May Come, Bambi, and Beaches come to mind.  There are also several films & TV shows that surprisingly I’d suggest avoiding even though on the surface, they might seem like the perfect… Continue reading What NOT to Watch!

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7 Reasons You Should Acknowledge Your Angel Babies

“Don’t talk about it”, “that’s too sad”, “keep that to yourself… you’ll have another baby”, “people don’t want to hear that”, “why are you  telling your business”, “you’re not actually a mom yet”, “yeah that happened to me too but you just don’t talk about those things”... These are some of the shitty things people… Continue reading 7 Reasons You Should Acknowledge Your Angel Babies

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Waiting for Rainbows

When you’re trying to get pregnant whether using fertility treatments or not, you’re usually familiar with “the wait”. It’s the period of time between when you last had unprotected sex or your insemination and the earliest date you can test. This varies a little bit depending on if you’re taking an OTC pregnancy test or… Continue reading Waiting for Rainbows