There are a lot of things I miss about being pregnant but there are a select few that really stick out and feel ever-present as this year comes to a close. The consistent intense feeling of grief fades a bit over time but the shorter, intermittent bursts of sadness are hella powerful even 6 months… Continue reading 7 Things I Oddly Miss…
You know that feeling when something’s going on with you and you feel like you then see evidence of it everywhere? Like when you’re going through a breakup but everywhere you turn, you seem to see couples cuddled up, cuffing season is in full swing and everybody-and-their-mother is getting engaged? Yeah, you know what I’m… Continue reading The Value of Trigger Warnings
*Language Warning so if you're offended by curses, pick another post ;-)* This post is going to be short and sweet because the truth is always more concise. I heard about a study that found people who lie use more words overall than people who tell the truth. Makes sense, right? The truth doesn’t need… Continue reading There is NO Safe Zone!
So a holiday is coming up. I won’t go into the sordid history of the “relationship” between indigenous people and pilgrims but the general message we’re supposed to get out of this holiday is to be grateful for the blessings you have received and to break bread with family and friends alike. Sometimes, it’s hard… Continue reading 7 Ways to Practice Gratitude
I used to love babies. If someone I know had a baby, I’d be one of the first people around wanting to hold, talk to, cuddle and love on the little one. I can remember my cousin coming over soon after having my god-daughter and me trying to take her out of the car seat… Continue reading I Don’t Hate Your Baby… I Just Really Miss Mine
What’s your happy place? The place you go where you feel at your best, your joy level is at it’s highest and you try to go as often as possible just to meet that need? For me, that place is Central Florida. I know Disney is typically deemed the “happiest place on earth” and though… Continue reading Happiest, Saddest Place…
Have you ever carved a pumpkin? I haven't. Today (10/22/17) was the first time that I can remember doing it. Maybe I did when I was a kid a long time ago but I was a little black Girl in Bklyn so pumpkin carving was probably the last thing on my mind. Anyway, today I… Continue reading How My Pumpkin Became My Baby
There are obviously films that you shouldn’t watch or suggest your friends/loved one’s watch after experiencing perinatal loss. Obviously films like What Dreams May Come, Bambi, and Beaches come to mind. There are also several films & TV shows that surprisingly I’d suggest avoiding even though on the surface, they might seem like the perfect… Continue reading What NOT to Watch!
Some days, the hardest thing I have to do is wake up without you. I look at my belly and see an empty space where you should have been. I look in my eyes and see a glassy surface with no sparkle You were the twinkle that lived there. For four months, you lit up… Continue reading Some Days
“Don’t talk about it”, “that’s too sad”, “keep that to yourself… you’ll have another baby”, “people don’t want to hear that”, “why are you telling your business”, “you’re not actually a mom yet”, “yeah that happened to me too but you just don’t talk about those things”... These are some of the shitty things people… Continue reading 7 Reasons You Should Acknowledge Your Angel Babies