You know that feeling when something’s going on with you and you feel like you then see evidence of it everywhere? Like when you’re going through a breakup but everywhere you turn, you seem to see couples cuddled up, cuffing season is in full swing and everybody-and-their-mother is getting engaged? Yeah, you know what I’m… Continue reading The Value of Trigger Warnings
Category: Trauma of it all
There is NO Safe Zone!
*Language Warning so if you're offended by curses, pick another post ;-)* This post is going to be short and sweet because the truth is always more concise. I heard about a study that found people who lie use more words overall than people who tell the truth. Makes sense, right? The truth doesn’t need… Continue reading There is NO Safe Zone!
11/17/17
On March 13, 2017 I found out that I was pregnant. Within a week or so, I found out we were having twins. Around April 15th, we were able to see our little gummy bears moving around in utero looking like Yin and Yang. When we went to our appointment in May, we saw our… Continue reading 11/17/17
#MeToo
All over the news and social media, there’s talk about making sexual assault and sexual harassment more visible. The hope is that by more people being aware of what often happens to womyn, the rapey behaviors will decrease. Yeah, I said rapey. I don't think I made it up. I think I actually took one… Continue reading #MeToo
The Ultimate Empathy
So your girl Gabby is releasing or has released a book talking about her struggles overall. I don’t know if the entire book is about her struggles with infertility but that portion of the content has been all the buzz on the internet. If you know me personally or have read another recent post, you… Continue reading The Ultimate Empathy
The Struggle is Real
On a late night (meaning early evening but for me, it was late to be running the streets) run for snacks & t-shirts, the wife and I ended up at Kohl’s. I personally find this store hit or miss but occasionally I find some gems that I can rock with. There were these cute (looking)… Continue reading The Struggle is Real
The Privilege of Taking Time Off
When you’re going through something, sometimes the last thing you want to do is go into a full time or part time job. Your brain just isn’t there, your focus is off, you may be emotional, edgy or distant. Either way, the last thing on your mind is the grind of a 9-5 so to… Continue reading The Privilege of Taking Time Off
On Being a Therapist in Therapy
If you read my bio, you know that I’m a clinician. I specifically am trained in marriage couple & family therapy as well as sex therapy. A good therapist understands the value of therapy and likely either has their own therapist or has been in therapy themselves at some point. If you can’t process what’s… Continue reading On Being a Therapist in Therapy
What NOT to Watch!
There are obviously films that you shouldn’t watch or suggest your friends/loved one’s watch after experiencing perinatal loss. Obviously films like What Dreams May Come, Bambi, and Beaches come to mind. There are also several films & TV shows that surprisingly I’d suggest avoiding even though on the surface, they might seem like the perfect… Continue reading What NOT to Watch!
7 Times You Give Zero F*cks…
Here are 7 times you give zero f*cks.... after perinatal loss... When there’s a party in the community We lost our twins shortly before Pride here in Philly. I believe the parade and such happened on 6/12 and I gave birth to Jora & Aviva on 6/7/17. Someone visited us and asked whether we… Continue reading 7 Times You Give Zero F*cks…
