“This group has never been for us… it’s been for our grief...not for us.” Privilege is a hot topic nowadays. Most of us have some sort of privilege even if we don’t want to recognize it. There’s racial or ethnic privilege, educational privilege, skin tone privilege, hair texture privilege, financial privilege, age privilege, physical ability… Continue reading The Audacity of… Pregnancy?
Category: black angel moms
Waiting for Rainbows
When you’re trying to get pregnant whether using fertility treatments or not, you’re usually familiar with “the wait”. It’s the period of time between when you last had unprotected sex or your insemination and the earliest date you can test. This varies a little bit depending on if you’re taking an OTC pregnancy test or… Continue reading Waiting for Rainbows
So Your Coworker/Family Member/Friend Just Had a Baby…
One of the most difficult things about being an angel mom is the fact that life just continues to move on. You’ve had (probably) one of the most devastating experiences a person could ever have. We’ve lost our babies… little pieces of us that we thought were going to be with us for years and… Continue reading So Your Coworker/Family Member/Friend Just Had a Baby…
When Nubia Fails…
I've been thinking a lot about the experience of angel mom's and the intense feelings of sadness and guilt that accompany the loss of our babies. One thing I consistently struggle with is the fact that I couldn't save my babies. I couldn't protect them from what ultimately happened to them no matter how hard… Continue reading When Nubia Fails…
Fu*k Beyonce
*Admittedly I wrote this the day her photos broke the internet. I'm not as angry/jealous about this as I was...kinda...* Yeah I said it. Ok hear me out before the dragging commences. Of course I don’t mean it the way it sounds but I’m angry. She’s taking beautiful pictures with her full belly, Africa-themed attire,… Continue reading Fu*k Beyonce
7 Ways to Honor Your Angel
There are any different ways to honor your little one that can help with your healing process. If you’re a person that just wants to move on and not think about the baby you lost, this post isn’t for you. But, if you are working through your healing and just feel like you need to… Continue reading 7 Ways to Honor Your Angel
Stages of Grief: 80’s Version
Kubler-Ross (1969) first addressed grief & loss as a series of stages one goes through to ultimately cope with the loss of a loved one. Generally five stages have been identified: denial & isolation, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Some people think these stages are linear meaning you go from one to the next in… Continue reading Stages of Grief: 80’s Version
Grief Bursts… They’re a Thing
When the wife & I attended our first grief support group after losing our daughters, we were really looking forward to it. We knew that we needed the support and in some strange way, hoped it would actually make us feel better. I say that’s “strange” because honestly, nothing makes you feel “better”. In fact,… Continue reading Grief Bursts… They’re a Thing
Sensitivity Around the Forgotten
I’ve been thinking a lot about why angel mom’s are so sensitive about the possibility of their little angels being forgotten. I was trying to figure out what the difference was between our angel babies and other older loved ones who have passed on and I came to the realization that it is literally, life.… Continue reading Sensitivity Around the Forgotten
The “Silent Sadness”… While Black
Perinatal loss is challenging both for the people directly experiencing it and for the people closest to them. For others, though it’s sad, it’s also awkward. People often seem to struggle with what to say and when to say it or what to do and when to do it. Sure, there are your exceptions. Those… Continue reading The “Silent Sadness”… While Black
Black Angel Mom 