Kicking off #BAMsCreate2019 for PAIL Awareness Month is Black Angel Mom Rhonda M. Check out the beauty she created capturing the intensity of the perinatal loss experience. BAM Rhonda is also a poet. "Ain't I Still a Mother Too" is a beautifully written piece looking at that confusing place post-loss, where you are trying to… Continue reading #BAMsCreate2019: BAM Rhonda M.
This month, in honor of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness, BlackAngelMom is showcasing BAM's (Black Angel Mom's) who have created beauty alongside and in spite of their grief. Losing your child is arguably one of the worst things than any person can experience. It isn't easy to go forward. It isn't easy to wake up… Continue reading #PAILAwareness + #BlackAngelMom = …
Often times we go through life just living it as we will live forever. We don’t think about the possibility of death because we are so comfortable with life. We take trips, we create memories, we take pictures and we do all of the things that we want to do simply because we can. But… Continue reading From Pain to Purpose
Photo by @eyeforebony Have you ever bent over backwards for someone and then felt like they did not do the same when you needed them? How did you feel about that? I bet you felt pissed off. There’s an unspoken code of conduct that basically states, “if I go above and beyond for you, you… Continue reading Don’t Get Mad: Set Boundaries
No one seems to understand. No one cares about my experience. No one, not even my partner or family, feels the depth of this pain. The world just keeps on spinning. Everyone just keeps on living… yet I’m stuck feeling like I’m screaming in the dark and no one can hear me. Does this sound… Continue reading Solo Dolo: Feeling Alone in Grief
Photo by: @Khaparazzi I’ve got a story for y’all… So a few weekends back, my spouse, myself, and our son are by our pool grilling. It’s Memorial Day weekend so lots of folx are out enjoying the weather and water. I’m minding my business, getting my grill-master on and feeling pretty damn proud of myself… Continue reading Decision Point: I got time TODAY!
Two years ago, today, I was admitted to the hospital knowing it would be the first time I met my daughters, and the last time I would see them. Two years ago, today, I experienced the worst heartbreak of my life and honestly, my heart is still on the mend from that experience. I wish… Continue reading Two Years Ago, Today…
Whhhheeeewwwwwww!!! *wipes forehead* We made it! We made it through Mother’s Day! A day we may have dreaded, may have prepared for, or may have had some really unexpected things come up for us; but we made it! Pat yourself on the back because you deserve it! So…. anybody else have an emotional hangover after… Continue reading Mother’s Day Hangovers: Yup, They’re a Thing…
When I was younger, I had all kinds of ideas about what kind of mother I wanted to, and was going to be. Largely, this was modeled after my own mother’s way of mothering me, but it was also a commitment I had to showing up for little life (or lives) I created in all… Continue reading This is What (Bereaved) Motherhood Looks Like
Photo by: @CRF.pics (IG) How much time is “enough time” for a person to be “over” their loss? How many of you have been asked if you’re STILL having a hard time since your loss? I’m grateful that question doesn’t usually come in my direction anymore (probably because I’m a little feisty. *shrugs* blame it… Continue reading Lemme Check… Yup! Still Hard