I started thinking about what I wanted to do for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month. I still haven’t entirely figured it out yet because though I plan to do some of the things on this list, I want to do some other things too (ever the overachiever…). Regardless of that, I wanted to let… Continue reading What You Can Do for PAIL Awareness Month
When you’re going through something, sometimes the last thing you want to do is go into a full time or part time job. Your brain just isn’t there, your focus is off, you may be emotional, edgy or distant. Either way, the last thing on your mind is the grind of a 9-5 so to… Continue reading The Privilege of Taking Time Off
If you read my bio, you know that I’m a clinician. I specifically am trained in marriage couple & family therapy as well as sex therapy. A good therapist understands the value of therapy and likely either has their own therapist or has been in therapy themselves at some point. If you can’t process what’s… Continue reading On Being a Therapist in Therapy
I want to talk to you all about privilege. We all have it to some degree and even people who feel like they are the under-privileged, may have some level of privilege when they really think about it. It can come in many forms and today folx, I’ve got to mention fertility treatment privilege. … Continue reading Fertility Tx Privilege
There are obviously films that you shouldn’t watch or suggest your friends/loved one’s watch after experiencing perinatal loss. Obviously films like What Dreams May Come, Bambi, and Beaches come to mind. There are also several films & TV shows that surprisingly I’d suggest avoiding even though on the surface, they might seem like the perfect… Continue reading What NOT to Watch!
Trying to conceive (ttc) is one of the most challenging things a person can experience. There are so many things to navigate and despite the appearance of people “popping up pregnant”, it’s really not as easy as it sounds. There are a few things that I know I learned about myself and possibly, you’ve learned… Continue reading Things You learn About Yourself in TTC
I’m big on one-liners and inspirational quotes. I keep them up in my office, around my desk at work, in my phone and even in my house. I think it’s important to have visual reminders of positive statements because it actually can (and does) help with your outlook on life. I like to think of… Continue reading 7 Sayings I Love
Here are 7 times you give zero f*cks.... after perinatal loss... When there’s a party in the community We lost our twins shortly before Pride here in Philly. I believe the parade and such happened on 6/12 and I gave birth to Jora & Aviva on 6/7/17. Someone visited us and asked whether we… Continue reading 7 Times You Give Zero F*cks…
Some days, the hardest thing I have to do is wake up without you. I look at my belly and see an empty space where you should have been. I look in my eyes and see a glassy surface with no sparkle You were the twinkle that lived there. For four months, you lit up… Continue reading Some Days
Journey circa 2013 If someone had told me when I was 18 that at 35, I’d be starting a blog about perinatal loss from the black woman’s perspective, I likely wouldn’t have believed them. In my mind, I was going to be married & pregnant by the time I was 24. If someone had told… Continue reading Somebody Shoulda Said Sumthin’
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