7 Gems - You're Welcome, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Uncategorized

On Being a Therapist in Therapy

If you read my bio, you know that I’m a clinician. I specifically am trained in marriage couple & family therapy as well as sex therapy.  A good therapist understands the value of therapy and likely either has their own therapist or has been in therapy themselves at some point. If you can’t process what’s… Continue reading On Being a Therapist in Therapy

Laugh through the pain, TTC (trying to conceive), Uncategorized

Fertility Tx Privilege

I want to talk to you all about privilege. We all have it to some degree and even people who feel like they are the under-privileged, may have some level of privilege when they really think about it. It can come in many forms  and today folx, I’ve got to mention fertility treatment privilege.  … Continue reading Fertility Tx Privilege

7 Gems - You're Welcome, grief & loss, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all, Uncategorized

What NOT to Watch!

There are obviously films that you shouldn’t watch or suggest your friends/loved one’s watch after experiencing perinatal loss.  Obviously films like What Dreams May Come, Bambi, and Beaches come to mind.  There are also several films & TV shows that surprisingly I’d suggest avoiding even though on the surface, they might seem like the perfect… Continue reading What NOT to Watch!

7 Gems - You're Welcome, Laugh through the pain, TTC (trying to conceive), Uncategorized

Things You learn About Yourself in TTC

Trying to conceive (ttc) is one of the most challenging things a person can experience. There are so many things to navigate and despite the appearance of people “popping up pregnant”, it’s really not as easy as it sounds. There are a few things that I know I learned about myself and possibly, you’ve learned… Continue reading Things You learn About Yourself in TTC

7 Gems - You're Welcome, Laugh through the pain, Trauma of it all, Uncategorized

7 Times You Give Zero F*cks…

Here are 7 times you give zero f*cks.... after perinatal loss... When there’s a party in the community   We lost our twins shortly before Pride here in Philly. I believe the parade and such happened on 6/12 and I gave birth to Jora & Aviva on 6/7/17.  Someone visited us and asked whether we… Continue reading 7 Times You Give Zero F*cks…

black angel moms, grief & loss, Uncategorized

Somebody Shoulda Said Sumthin’

Journey circa 2013 If someone had told me when I was 18 that at 35, I’d be starting a blog about perinatal loss from the black woman’s perspective, I likely wouldn’t have believed them.  In my mind, I was going to be married & pregnant by the time I was 24.  If someone had told… Continue reading Somebody Shoulda Said Sumthin’