7 Gems - You're Welcome, grief & loss, Uncategorized

Annnnd…We’re in a Sex Drought

So, many couples experience a lull in sexual activity after the birth of a baby.  They’re busy with nursing, waking up all hours of the night, holding babies, consoling babies, changing stinky diapers, washing babies, etc. Raising an infant is like a full time job. Then in addition to parent duties with the little one(s),… Continue reading Annnnd…We’re in a Sex Drought

7 Gems - You're Welcome, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Uncategorized

7 Reasons You Should Acknowledge Your Angel Babies

“Don’t talk about it”, “that’s too sad”, “keep that to yourself… you’ll have another baby”, “people don’t want to hear that”, “why are you  telling your business”, “you’re not actually a mom yet”, “yeah that happened to me too but you just don’t talk about those things”... These are some of the shitty things people… Continue reading 7 Reasons You Should Acknowledge Your Angel Babies

black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, Uncategorized

The Audacity of… Pregnancy?

“This group has never been for us… it’s been for our grief...not for us.” Privilege is a hot topic nowadays. Most of us have some sort of privilege even if we don’t want to recognize it. There’s racial or ethnic privilege, educational privilege, skin tone privilege, hair texture privilege, financial privilege, age privilege, physical ability… Continue reading The Audacity of… Pregnancy?

7 Gems - You're Welcome, black angel moms, grief & loss, Trauma of it all, TTC (trying to conceive), Uncategorized

Waiting for Rainbows

When you’re trying to get pregnant whether using fertility treatments or not, you’re usually familiar with “the wait”. It’s the period of time between when you last had unprotected sex or your insemination and the earliest date you can test. This varies a little bit depending on if you’re taking an OTC pregnancy test or… Continue reading Waiting for Rainbows

7 Gems - You're Welcome, grief & loss, Uncategorized

7 Ways to Get a Fresh Start

Losses and grief are really the worst. There's different kinds of loss but grief is experienced with all of them, not just death. I'm going for give you 7 suggestions on how to get a fresh start after experiencing a loss. These are things I've done or plan to do (or things I just think… Continue reading 7 Ways to Get a Fresh Start

7 Gems - You're Welcome, TTC (trying to conceive), Uncategorized

7 Things you Should Know About Fertility Treatments

When people hear “fertility treatment” or that someone is going to a “fertility doctor” they usually think of two things: low sperm counts and IVF (In Vitro Fertilization).  Though those can be part of fertility treatments, not everyone has those issues or requires that level of intervention.  I tell you, my wife and I learned… Continue reading 7 Things you Should Know About Fertility Treatments

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So Your Coworker/Family Member/Friend Just Had a Baby…

One of the most difficult things about being an angel mom is the fact that life just continues to move on. You’ve had (probably) one of the most devastating experiences a person could ever have. We’ve lost our babies… little pieces of us that we thought were going to be with us for years and… Continue reading So Your Coworker/Family Member/Friend Just Had a Baby…

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When Nubia Fails…

I've been thinking a lot about the experience of angel mom's and the intense feelings of sadness and guilt that accompany the loss of our babies. One thing I consistently struggle with is the fact that I couldn't save my babies. I couldn't protect them from what ultimately happened to them no matter how hard… Continue reading When Nubia Fails…

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Fu*k Beyonce

*Admittedly I wrote this the day her photos broke the internet. I'm not as angry/jealous about this as I was...kinda...* Yeah I said it. Ok hear me out before the dragging commences.  Of course I don’t mean it the way it sounds but I’m angry. She’s taking beautiful pictures with her full belly, Africa-themed attire,… Continue reading Fu*k Beyonce